Best Version of Me
So the last time I did this poll thing, I received more than 2 times the number of voters from the first poll so thank you to my readers for your response! Here are the results from my previous poll:
I probably would still do those other posts in the future, so don’t worry if you really wanted to see any of those above. For the reader that asked to see my “usual make-up routine”, the reason I won’t be doing that is because I think it’s kinda difficult to blog about a make-up routine hahaha, I think that stuff is more meant for YouTube (sobs).
And no, I have not yet gathered the resources (or confidence) to start a YouTube channel. But hey, maybe if enough of you want it, it could happen.
A note before we begin:
The reason this post took so long was that I personally found this a very challenging post to write, mostly because I felt like females can’t very simply be split up into different “body shapes” or “body types”. I mean sure, upon research we could all find the typical “pear”, “hourglass” etc. but it’s all so generalized that sometimes we don’t even know which one we belong to (or if we even fit into one category at all).
So this is how we’ll do it. Instead of separating different female bodies into “types”, I’ll show you how to dress for your body by listing out features that most closely resemble your own. Again, you don’t necessarily (and probably won’t) only fall under one description so look out for what you feel you relate to the most. I’ll also be giving tips along the way on how to feel your best when choosing what to wear. Remember that this post is not about hiding parts of your body that you dislike, but about how to use fashion to do yourself justice by making you look your best.
I apologize if this post is extremely wordy, but I will try my best to make this post as relatable and realistic as possible.
Let’s begin. :)
Best Version of Me
I think so often that the female body is beautiful. But it can appear hideous under the wrong clothing. It’s like placing a thoughtfully and beautifully wrapped present into a garbage bag. And maybe that’s what’s making us hate ourselves; trying to force our bodies into the dress we saw in the window display, even if it wasn’t made for the kind of bodies we have or refusing to wear anything over a UK 8 because “that’s the size I’ve always been”. This frustrates me so much, I could write a book about it. If only we would pick clothes that made us look beautiful instead.
And this brings me to my first point.
1. You are not a number.
It wasn’t easy, but I’ve learnt to ignore the label and just go by how it looks and feels instead. I have clothes in my closet that are sized from XS all the way to a XXL, and they all fit me fine. I think that we have to learn to be okay with picking up clothes regardless of their sizing. Why be ashamed if you’re wearing pants that say extra large? The label only speaks for the clothes, not for you. I don’t think anyone’s entire closet is going to be purely a UK 6 or purely size S, and just because you were a certain size yesterday, doesn’t mean you are going to be the same size today, which brings me to my next 2 points…
2. How the female body works.
One thing that’s different from guys is that girls’ weight and size fluctuate more, specifically during pre-menstrual bloating etc. The female body naturally stores fat especially at the butt, chest, back and stomach areas (all part of puberty and preparing for motherhood) and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. The female body’s weight also fluctuates more between morning and night. Some days, we feel heavier and bigger while there are other days that we feel leaner and smaller. There are always days that my jeans fit tighter than others. But it’s important that I don’t be too harsh on myself and punish my body for doing nothing more than its job.
3. Like us, clothes come in all shapes and sizes too.
This applies to different brands across the globe and that means you could be a size S in one store, but an L in another. Asian brands cater more to petite bodies and Western brands the opposite, so not every piece of clothing is going to fit the same. Also, not everything is meant to fit perfectly. Some clothes are designed to fit snug on the body while others were meant to be a little more oversized. Having a mix of both types of pieces can really help in accepting your body for what it is. And my next point…
4. Just because it zips, doesn’t mean it fits.
This is pretty much the worst thing we all suffer from; the “I’ll just keep moving down the size range until I can’t breathe” syndrome. Just because it physically fits you, doesn’t mean it’s the right size. Granted, yes, sometimes we may be in between sizes but we have to learn to have an editing eye and know when it’s necessary to let go of the smaller tag for a more comfortable fit. You don’t want to be sucking in the whole day or have to keep tugging at your hem. You want to make the clothes fit you and not the other way around. And lastly…
5. If you love it, show it.
With modesty, of course. I can’t think of anything that would bring down my confidence more than wearing clothes that highlight my least favourite parts of my body. If you love your collarbones, wear something off-the-shoulder or strapless. If you hate your tummy, then don’t wear something cropped or tight. It’s all about appreciating the parts that you love instead of hating the parts that you’re insecure about.
So now you know the basic rules of dressing for yourself, let’s get started.
#1 Cutie with a Booty
If your lower body is generally bigger than your upper body, and more of your femininity is resting on your hips, butt and thighs, here are some ways to accentuate your figure.
a) Wear skirts that skim.
A-line skirts (more commonly known as skater skirts) are a great way to balance out your proportions. Skirts that hug too closely to your lower stomach and hips can make your butt and thighs look bigger than they actually are and may keep riding up your body when you’re walking.
b) Keep bottoms clean.
Wearing too loud a pattern or too large-scaled a pattern on your lower body can make it appear overly busy. Stick to demure colours and elegant patterns like dots/stripes/subtle floral. Also avoid big pockets/bows/ruffles or anything that could add extra dimension to this area.
c) Avoid skinny jeans/jeggings.
Tight pants are alright as long as they do not hug your legs all the way to the ankles. Those would make your hips and thighs look out of proportion as compared to your calves and ankles. You’ll want to try straight cut jeans or even jeans with a little flare at the ankle. Alternatively, if you really do love your skinny jeans, try to balance them out on the bottom by tucking your jeans into boots, or wearing chunkier shoes as compared to thin flats. Heels can also help take the weight off your bottom.
#2 Light Hearted
If you’ve a smaller chest and upper body, or if your arms and shoulders are thinner than you’d want them to be, here are some tips on how to choose the right tops.
a) Choose lively prints.
Brighter colours and patterns on top help enhance shape and curves on your upper body. Dull or dark plain colours could make you appear smaller than you are and could mask your femininity.
Additional accessories like jackets/cardigans can really help add weight to your silhouette. Tops with detailed necklines such as embellishments, ruffles or pleats can also create interesting lines on your torso. Sleeves (whether long or short) can make your top appear fuller. Because of your dainty and delicate frame, you can also pull off heavier fabrics on top such as velvet or polyester without appearing top-heavy.
c) Avoid tight tops.
Tops that have little fabric or are too body-hugging on top leave little room for imagination. Instead of wearing flimsy tight singlets, opt for more structured tops that best flatter your figure.
#3 Big Hearted
(you saw this coming)
If your upper body is relatively larger than your lower body, or you often find that dresses fit tight on your bust but loose on the rest of your body, here are some tips on how to dress to flatter your curves.
a) Choose simple necklines.
Tops with delicate, neat necklines are most flattering. Avoid high collars or turtlenecks and choose v-necks or any other deep necklines instead. The simpler the top, the more top-elegant you will look. The less busy your fabric is on top, the more graceful (and less bulky) you’ll look.
b) Drop the fabric.
Too much fabric on top can clutter up your frame and make you look chunky instead of curvy. Opt for lighter, softer materials like satin or cotton and stay away from pockets or pleated tops. Ruffles and frills are an absolute no.
c) Avoid shapeless pieces.
I feel like shift dresses and tank dresses just weren’t made for girls with boobs above a B. Because there’s no structure to it and nothing to synch it in at the waist, the fabric ends up dangling off your body, making you look kinda pregnant (trust me, I’ve been there). Instead, find tops that fit moderately; not too body hugging and not too baggy. This is to help maintain your shape without looking like an over-stuffed dumpling (I’ve been here too).
#4 Hugger’s arms
Yup I don’t know of any other way to say it. If you have more meat on your arms than you’d like, or if you feel insecure baring your shoulders or upper arms, here are some ways to help you boost your confidence.
a) Not all sleeves are flattering.
The worst mistake to make when trying to conceal your arms is thinking that any kind of sleeve is better than no sleeve, so I’ll say this once and please, for the life of me, remember this: do not wear cap sleeves. Cap sleeves are the cropped/short sleeves that cut off at around your armpit. Choose sleeves with less harsh lines that do not draw attention to your upper arm such as long sleeves or sleeves that taper nearer the elbow instead. Contrary to what you may believe, sometimes no sleeve at all can give off the illusion of slimmer arms than a sleeve can. No puffy/frilly sleeves either.
If you want to wear a cute dress but you’re insecure of the way your arms look in it, try adding a soft cardigan or jacket over. It’s a great and basic way to add the comfort and confidence that you’re looking for.
c) Avoid racer backs.
Because of its cut, it makes your back appear smaller and your arms appear bigger. While you’re at it, avoid halter necks as well. They squeeze your chest and arm area and make the underarm fat more prominent. Choose clean, simple lines.
#5 Stomach Fat
Face it guys, we all have it. Whether it’s after a big meal, or just…there. Here are some ways to help make sure that you still look your best with a little bit of tummy.
a) Avoid bottoms that sit on your hips.
Low waist bands can make the stomach look like it’s bulging more than it actually is, and may make you feel insecure to sit down or bend forward. Try high-waisted bottoms instead that help create a smoother transition from stomach to hips.
b) The flowy top + fitted bottom combo.
Loose-fitted tanks or blouses with skinny jeans or fitted skirts set up the perfect silouhette that remain unaffected if your tummy bloats a little after dinner. It also draws attention to your lower half instead of your mid-portion.
c) If you have to synch, do it above the tummy.
Wear dresses, skirts or tops that synch in above your stomach instead of on it. Finding clothes that mirror your shape helps by synching you in at the parts where you’re smallest.
#6 The Small Waist-to-Hip Ratio
So if you find that you don’t really have a very defined waist, and your torso is relatively evenly wide throughout, here’s what to do to help elevate your body with the way you dress.
a) Belt it.
Wear blouses or dresses that don’t cling to your body and flow loosely, but tie it in with a belt. A belt is always a great way to break up the body in a kind way, sorta like saying (hey, my waist is over here). Alternatively, you can get the same look by wearing 2 contrasting colours on your top and bottom to create the same break at the waistline.
b) Exaggerate your top and bottom.
A great way to do this is by wearing a blazer on top (or something with defined shoulders) with a skater skirt or dress. This silouhette flatters your frame best and enhances your curves on your top and bottom and minimizes the waist portion.
c) Crop tops.
Worn with high waisted or low waisted bottoms, then apply the fitted vs. flowy rule. If you choose a looser crop top, pair it with skinnier bottoms. If you choose a more body hugging drop top, pair it with a flowy skirt or boyfriend jeans.
I apologize for almost forgetting about my girls that are smaller in the height department… Okay so I’m clearly getting less and less creative on the category names, but this is pretty straightforward, yes? If you’re around 160cm tall, or always have to alter/fold your jeans, here are some tips on how to make short look hot.
a) Maximize leg room.
This means that you’ll want your legs to look as long as possible, so avoid clothes that create a “break” in your line. For example, 3-quarter pants or jeans that have folded cuffs at the bottom are a NO. Because, they end at awkward places on your leg, they cut off your legs and make them look shorter and stubbier, which is what you want to avoid. Choose jeans that go all the way down to your ankles. Also, avoid shoes that have horizontal straps above the ankle. These too will harshly cut off your legs. Try shoes (preferably heels) without straps or with deeper scoops down the front to make your legs look longer. And an extra tip: match the colour of your shoes to the colour of your pants to create an undisrupted line.
b) Keep it close.
Because you don’t have much vertically, you don’t want to add anything more horizontally. So choose clothes that hug close to your body and not flow or poof out too much. So opt for skinny jeans/leggings and avoid skirts that have a lot of volume. Wearing thinner materials works better as well because thicker materials like quilt/velvet may make you look thicker and wider than you are, and eventually, shorter than you are.
c) When all else fails, just follow: The Thirds Rule
So instead of separating your figure into half, split it into thirds (your legs taking 2/3 while your torso taking 1/3). This really helps elongate your figure and make you appear taller. You can do this by wearing high-waisted skirts or pants instead of low-waisted ones. Wearing crop tops or simply tucking in your blouse can also clean up messy lines.
Bonus tip: monochrome outfits are best at making the body appear leaner and longer.
3 Pieces that Flatter All Bodies
1. The Skater Dress
Because it already has a built-in silouhette, you can never go wrong with this style. It’s timeless, feminine and a piece worth investing in (or owning a few of). Play around with the little details to your liking such as patterns, sleeves and necklines until you find the type that make you feel best in.
2. The Peplum Top
The peplum top is a versatile and fashionable piece that creates an effortlessly feminine shape. You can choose between high and low waists depending on what flatters your body best, and between dramatic peplums or more subtle peplums.
3. The Kimono
You’ll be able to find these pieces nearly everywhere now. The best part is that they come in all different styles; from knitted and structured to floral or crochet. I love how it flows over any body without looking like you’re trying too hard. Try these as an alternative to the usual cardigan.
That’s all I have this time guys, I hope that this post could help at least one of you! Remember that accepting and appreciating your body is the key to comfort and confidence. Do yourself a favour and dress for your body. Love all you beautiful people. :)
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